Homophobia, or heterosexism, refers to the assumption that everyone should be, or is, heterosexual.
This can result in serious forms of prejudice against those who experience same-sex attraction.
In this article, we will be replacing the term “homophobia” with “heterosexism.” This is because “homophobia” places an emphasis on the irrational fears of an individual as opposed to the systems in place that affect a person’s health.
Heterosexism does not refer to the prejudice and discrimination related to a person’s gender identity, or cissexism.
Understanding what heterosexism is can help people identify it and oppose it when they see it, if it is safe to do so.
In this article, we explore what heterosexism is, what internalized heterosexism means, and how to be an ally. We also look at the definition of “outing” and how heterosexism can affect a person’s health.
Homophobia, or heterosexism, is the assumption that people should be, or are, heterosexual.
Planned Parenthood note that it is the fear, mistrust, hatred, or discomfort toward those who experience same-sex attraction.
It can also take many different forms, ranging from the use of negative and offensive language, to more extreme forms, including bullying, abuse, and physical violence.
Additionally, homophobia can present in the form of systematic oppression. A person can experience discrimination from the government, religious institutions, and other businesses. Examples include:
- denying same-sex couples of the right to get married
- being denied housing due to sexual orientation
- getting fired due to sexual orientation
A person may exhibit homophobic tendencies or thoughts due to their upbringing or conservative religious beliefs.
Internalized heterosexism is a term that refers to those who experience same-sex attraction, yet harbor negative feelings and views about their sexuality.
They can turn their negative feelings in on themselves and struggle to come to terms with their sexual orientation.
They may express this conflict in the following ways:
- repressing their feelings of same-sex attraction
- hiding their sexual orientation from the wider community
- attempting to “prove” they are straight by acting in a stereotypical manner
- being discriminatory toward those who are openly gay, lesbian, or bisexual
- never identifying as lesbian, gay, or bisexual
- believing that their feelings are “wrong”
“Outing” is the practice of making a public statement about a person’s sexuality or gender status without their permission.
This can negatively affect people’s lives and result in them being the subject of abuse, discrimination, and in some cases, physical violence.
Heterosexism can affect people’s mental and physical health in many ways.
Systematic heterosexism can also limit a person’s access to high-quality healthcare and make it difficult to get health insurance.
LGBTQIA+ individuals may also find it difficult to tell their clinicians about their sexual identity.
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The research notes this lack of communication can result in:
- poor relationships between healthcare professionals and the people seeking medical help
- inadequate interventions to help prevent sexually transmitted infections
- inadequate screening for communicable infections and illnesses
- a lack of health-related education
Heterosexism can also occur at home and in schools.
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The 2019 YRBS found that of the lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth surveyed:
- 13.5% felt unsafe at school
- 11.9% experienced bullying at school
- 19.4% experienced forced sexual intercourse in their lifetime
In addition, those who experience same-sex attraction are likely to experience rejection by their families.
The CDC note that those who experience familial rejection were
- take their own life
- report depression
- use illegal drugs
- engage in risky sexual practices
Experiencing discrimination in any setting can have a huge impact on a person’s health.
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- increased stress levels
- decreased access to emotional support
- escalating incidence of depression and suicide
- interference with chances of long-term relationships and marriage
Mental Health America report that LGBTQIA+ people use mental health services at 2.5 times the rate of the general population.
Help is out there
If you or someone you know is in crisis and considering suicide or self-harm, please seek support:
- Call or text the 988 Lifeline at 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org. Caring counselors are available to listen and provide free and confidential support 24/7.
- Text HOME to the Crisis Text Line at 741741 to connect with a volunteer crisis counselor for free and confidential support 24/7.
- Not in the United States? Find a helpline in your country with Befrienders Worldwide.
- Call 911 or your local emergency services number if you feel safe to do so.
If you’re calling on behalf of someone else, stay with them until help arrives. You may remove weapons or substances that can cause harm if you can do so safely.
If you’re not in the same household, stay on the phone with them until help arrives.
Help is available for people who are experiencing heterosexism.
There are Gay/Straight Alliances, or GSA clubs, in middle and high schools and affiliated with college campuses. These organizations give LGBTQIA+ young people the chance to get support, build community, and take action on issues that matter to them.
Many communities have LGBTQIA+ community centers striving to meet the wide-ranging needs of their people. According to CenterLink, a service organization for LGBTQIA+ community centers, there are more than 250 such centers across the United States, serving 2 million people.
People who cannot access a community center or GSA club can still find a wide range of support online, such as:
Being an ally means being a vocal supporter of the LGBTQIA+ community, and this support relates to a person’s actions as well as their words.
Individuals interested in making an organizational commitment to fighting homophobia can explore the options available with LGBTQIA+ support organizations.
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, or PFLAG, have more than 400 chapters and 200,000 members across the country.
PFLAG programs include online learning, advocacy, publications, and media training to promote pride and inclusion.
People can also:
- avoid using offensive language to describe those who identify as LGBTQIA+
- not believe in stereotypes
- educate themselves about LGBTQIA+ issues
- respect people’s decisions regarding when and if they want to be openly gay
People can also speak out when they witness heterosexism, for example, when a person makes an offensive joke or bullies others.
If an individual decides to address heterosexism, they should ensure that it is safe to do so.
Some factors to consider might include:
- whether or not they are in public
- whether they are with a friend or family member
- would it be beneficial to address the issue in public, or in private later
- would it be safer to walk away and leave it
Heterosexism is a form of prejudice against those who experience same-sex attraction.
It can make it difficult for those who experience same-sex attraction to get healthcare or jobs. It can also have negative effects on a person’s mental and physical health. However, there are many different support services available.
Straight people can be allies and take a stand against heterosexism.
